Your alarm rings. You are pressing snooze. Over and over again. Eventually you wake up, but you are feeling upset with yourself for being late again. That is the first feeling you create for your day.
Then you might even switch on your phone, check your emails, social media, or read the news and get triggered again. Maybe you have read something that upsets you, or you are aware that you are behind a deadline and feel stressed.
All that before you have even left the bed. Or you are in a rush because you are late for work or even worse— a meeting. You have no time to create your day. You simply throw yourself into it.
How do you think you are going to feel for the rest of the day? Agitated and nervous or happy, grounded and in your element?
Right, most likely you are more on the agitated, nervous side.
It doesn’t have to be this way. It’s up to you to change your day— every day— already from the moment you are waking up. It can significantly change your life.
How do you do that?
Create your own daily rituals.
Even if you claim that you are not a morning person, start with a morning practice that works for you. Your feeling state in the first hour of your day will have significant effects on the rest of your day. You will get up earlier when you start getting up every day at the same time, even on weekends. Eventually you will not need an alarm clock any more because your internal biological clock will adjust and wake you up at the same time every day. Get in the habit of avoiding pressing the snooze button – it will change your life.
After a week, you will notice that even though you initially think you have to invest time, you will actually safe time because it makes you more productive, more joyful, more focused and more like the person you want to be.
Below we have created an example for how you can include these 10 rituals into your daily routine. It doesn’t matter how you will apply them and at what time of the day. What we do know, is that people who integrate these rituals into their daily lives in their own unique way are capable of amazing things, even if they have a busy life.
Ritual 1 – Prepare today for tomorrow.
Every moment spent in planning saves 10 times the time in execution. Instead of following long to do lists and getting confused about prioritizing your tasks, make blocks of time that you commit to a specific task. If you don’t do this, you might get drained by mixing different flows of energy that you need to get the work done. Eg. It’s not helpful to answer emails, then write a blog, then message lots of people, then fix a problem, then work on a new product.
Before the next day starts, sit down with a piece of paper and write down everything that you need to do the coming day that fits into each block you created. Put things that don’t fit in, into another block for the next day.
If for any reason you don’t do this, it should be the first thing you do every morning. When you write a list you have a track to run on.
Ritual 2 – Rest well.
Depending on the sleep type you have, you need more or less sleep. You will find out how many hours of sleep serve you best if you start going to bed every day at the same time and wake up at the same time. If you wake up before you are supposed to, you need less sleep. If you still find it difficult to wake up, add an extra hour of sleep. To allow your body to rest well, switch off Wifi’s if possible to give your body a break from radiation. Create a sleep environment for yourself that feels calm and clean. You may want to tidy up your room and open the window for fresh air to come in before you go to sleep.
Ritual 3 – Hydrate.
When we wake up, our body and especially our brain are water-depleted and need instant hydration. Hydrate yourself best with liquid that is alkalizing your body, such as warm lemon water. If you want to help your body to get rid of any toxic substances it has filtered during the night, I recommend you to activate your liver by drinking a glass of celery juice 20 min later. This will activate your bowl to release everything that your body has processed during the night.
Ritual 4 – Movement is medicine.
Get the blood flowing through practicing at moderate intensity at least once per day for about 30 mins. Cardio vascular activity is important to activate the heart and the immune system, increase blood flow in your veins and arteries, and stimulate endorphins. That’s why you naturally feel better every time you move. Try it out right now by shaking one of your hands for 20 seconds. Then stop and simply feel the different energy between a hand that you have shaken and a hand that you have not moved at all. The same thing happens with your entire body.
Ritual 5 – Mind is medicine.
Whatever you focus on, expands. Be mindful of your thoughts and which ones you give power towards. Choose whatever helps you to remember that you are not your thoughts, and not your feelings, but that you are something much more powerful and miraculous: Meditation, finding inner peace through breathing techniques, focus on your future vision. I recommend Vishen Lakiani’s 6 phase meditation, Wim Hof’s breathing technique, Joe Dispenza’s meditations.
Ritual 6 – Journal.
Whether you follow ‘The Artist Way’ and write ‘morning-pages’, or you prefer to focus on specific questions and prompts, self reflections, write from the perspective of different parts within yourself or finding other ways of conscious attention, journaling is a way of bringing you in touch with your subconscious. It will help you listen to your own inner voice (or voices) and see with more clarity.
Ritual 7 – Connect with self through self-care.
Imagine what life would feel like if you’d appreciate every little experience. Instead of taking a shower, experience a shower. Instead of waiting for someone else to hug you, give yourself a hug. Instead of thinking that only a partner can touch you gently, take some oil and give yourself a massage. The more mindfulness, presence and sensuality you can bring to your body as you clean and dress yourself, the more loved you’ll feel.
Ritual 8 – Food & connection are medicine.
Try to eat with others. In some cultures, food isn’t so much about nutrition rather than connection. Saturate yourself with plenty of nutrients, as you are connecting with friends, family or work colleagues. Try to avoid nibbling throughout the day. Focus on what is on your plate and eat more mindfully every day.
Ritual 9 – Activate your mind.
Train your brain by learning something new every day. Whether you are learning a new skill, listen to a podcast, or do something unfamiliar like brushing your teeth with the other hand or unlocking your door without looking, it’s important to practice new things so your brain cells stay fresh. Learning something new throughout the life, along with healthy diet and human connection, has been the most important strategy in reducing Alzheimer disease.
Ritual 10 – Connect with nature.
Whether you are taking a moment to connect with a tree in the city, you cycle to a river and watch the water for a while, or you look at the stars in the night, connecting with nature on a daily basis is essential for a productive, thriving day. Nature is who you truly are and by spending mindful time with the more than human world, you will begin to remember. The benefits of that are beyond measure.
Rituals are habits and our habits make us who we are. If we invest into a daily self-care routine, our care will show results. Our health will improve, our self-love will grow, our gratitude levels will go up.
The idea of implementing a new habit is different from taking action. Download this free weekly rituals sheet and give yourself the best change to not only say you will do it, but actually put it in your daily plan and take action. Align the rituals with your vision of your best self and don’t be disappointed if fail. Instead, integrate the information of why a certain ritual is difficult to integrate and adapt your rituals until you find your unique flow in the context of your life. By the way, it takes 21 days to create a soft habit, and 100 days to create a lifestyle habit. So be kind to yourself. It takes time!
I invite you to start with a 7 days of selfcare challenge. It will get you in the habit of adopting a new habit.